What does the menu offer in response to fear and insecurity? What can people do to feel safe again? We use certain defense mechanisms, which together I call the Œmenu¹:
The "menu"
If you have familiarized yourself with the menu of defense mechanisms, go to aggravation and irritation.
| Keeping quiet | Over Compensating | Fighting | Fleeing |
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| Safety in numbers | Keeping distance | Aiming to please |
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